Wednesday, March 04, 2015

By The Bi-The Blazing Change Players Ignite The Stage


By The Bi-The Blazing Change Players Ignite The Stage
Submitted By Morgan Barbour


 Within the past year, there has been much talk of both the struggles and several long over due victories within the LGBT community. Yet there is one facet of that struggle that is often overlooked: the bisexual struggle. There are thousands of bisexual young adults who face isolation and prejudice from both the heterosexual and LGBT communities, and so far it is a story that has gone, for the most part, largely untold. It is time for that silence to end, and the end of that silence begins with the Blazing Change Players.

Blazing Change Players was founded by By the Bi Director, Caroline Downs, and Choreographer, Morgan Barbour, in response to the lack of bisexual representation in the media. We are a non-profit educational theatre company with a mission to create original, challenging, and dynamic dramatic works, which function as a platform for  open dialogue about issues of social inequality within modern society.

By the Bi is the principle piece of Blazing Change Players, which will be premiering in Richmond March 22 at The Shop, and is then scheduled to open internationally in Dublin, Ireland at the International Dublin Gay Theatre Festival, which is the largest gay theatre festival in the world. Told through a series of seventeen vignettes utilizing a mixture of dance, music, and spoken word, By the Bi is an original script that addresses how society's views and isolation of any sort of bisexual culture contributes to perpetuating harmful bisexual stereotypes of greediness, promiscuity and confusion.  It also brings to light the alarmingly high statistic rates of suicide, domestic violence, sexual assault, and rape that too often become a reality for many bisexual young adults due to society's perception of their sexuality.

 When a young person is constantly told that their reality is cheap or invalid, it causes a lot of inner turmoil and conflict, and in most cases a lot of self hatred has to be dealt with. No one wants to embrace a part of themselves that makes them a social outcast, and it's hard when that is such a big part of who you are. It is time we stand up and make the statement that these parts of ourselves are not only ok, they are beautiful because they make us who we are. So we are working to expose not only the hurtful stereotypes and statistics that society's view point of bisexuals causes, but we are working to give the public an inside look at the personal and often painful journey that bisexual young adults must take to find their place in and their peace within society.  It gives a voice to a voiceless community and sheds light on issues of not only bisexual inequality, but of human inequality.

We would like to invite everyone to join us in being an instrument for positive change. For more information or to keep up with our journey, visit our website at:

www.blazingchangeplayers.com

You can also support us on both our Facebook and IndieGogo pages:

www.facebook.com/bythebiplay
www.indiegogo.com/projects/get-by-the-bi-to-ireland

Our project is one that we are confident has the potential to change the world for the better, and we would be honored to have anyone our message reaches stand with us as beacon of hope for a voiceless community. Help us shatter our silence.

Meet The Players


Saturday, February 28, 2015

Unicorn Booty Salutes Notable Black Bisexuals

Hopefully everyone enjoyed Black History Month!

Black bisexual musician Meshell Ndegeocello (UnicornBooty)

To close it out with a bang, check out UnicornBooty.com's list of Notable Black Bisexuals!  


BiNet USA President Faith Cheltenham joins Dr. Herukhuti, co-editor of Recognize: The Voices of Bisexual Men, Amy Andre, author of HRC's Bisexual Youth Report, ABilly S. Jones-Hennin, Black LGBT pioneer, Travon Free, writer on The Daily Show, Charles Blow, author of the New York Times bestseller Fire Shut Up In My Bones and several others on this outstanding list!

Many thanks to bi writer Harrie Farrow for penning this great piece!


Thursday, February 26, 2015

March is Bisexual Health Awareness Month

March brings us the second annual Bisexual Awareness Month. This year the focus is our mental health. Given our mental health disparity stats this is a much needed resource for our community.




BISEXUAL RESOURCE CENTER DESIGNATES MARCH AS BISEXUAL HEALTH AWARENESS MONTH

The second year of this social media campaign dedicated to raising awareness about the bi community’s mental health disparities

Julia Canfield, MPH, CHES bham@biresource.net


Boston, MA – Recognizing that the bisexual community remains marginalized and underserved, the Bisexual Resource Center (BRC) proudly proclaims March once more as Bisexual Health Awareness Month (BHAM).

Because bisexual individuals report consistently higher levels of depression, suicidality, substance use, anxiety, and other mood disorders compared to their heterosexual, gay and lesbian counterparts, this year’s theme for BHAM is Mental Health. BisexualHealth Awareness Month will engage with the community at large throughout the month of March to raise awareness about these mental health disparities and to push for more action and resources that can better support bisexual individuals.

This year BHAM will incorporate three main values – Intersectionality, Support, and Advocacy – into its campaign to highlight the diverse challenges experienced by the bisexual community, promote bisexual-specific resources, and propose interventions to decrease mental health disparities. The BRC will utilize its social media channels, in addition to a newly launched campaign website, to disseminate this information for public use and dialogue.

BRC Board President, Julia Canfield, emphasized the need for this campaign: “Bisexual people have long been impacted by the negative effects of biphobia and bisexual erasure from both LGBTQ and straight communities. They have also been denied access to critical services and resources that can enhance their mental and emotional well-being. Therefore, Bisexual Health Awareness Month aims to increase awareness about these issues and feature ways we can effectively address them.”

Bisexual Health Awareness Month will have the following focus themes throughout the four weeks of March in order to emphasize the various issues regarding mental health in the bisexual community:
  • March 2-6: (Statistics) A focus on current statistics and research data concerning mental health disparities in the bisexual community.
  • March 9-13: (Intersectionality) An emphasis on how race, ethnicity, class, age, ability, etc., can further impact mental health disparities in the bisexual community, particularly in regards to experiences of oppression and discrimination.
  • March 16-20: (Resources) A spotlight on current resources and creation of new ones that can address mental health disparities in the bisexual community.
  • March 23-27: (Action) The promotion and development of interventions, policies, and other activities that work to prevent or decrease mental health disparities in the bisexual community.

Bisexual Health Awareness Month launches on Monday, March 2nd on the BRC’s Twitter (with hashtag #bihealthmonth), Facebook, and Tumblr pages. The BRC invites individuals and organizations both in the United States and from around the world to become involved with the campaign and to raise awareness about bisexual mental health disparities in their own communities.

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The Bisexual Resource Center (BRC) has been advocating for bisexual visibility and raising awareness about bisexuality throughout the LGBT and straight communities since 1985. The Bisexual Resource Center envisions a world where love is celebrated, regardless of sexual orientation or gender expression. Visit www.biresource.net.


Wednesday, February 25, 2015

BECAUSE 2015 PRESS RELEASE


BECAUSE 2015

Minneapolis, MN, USA

Bisexual Organizing Project Announces Conference Theme and Keynote Speakers

Bisexual Organizing Project (BOP) announces the BECAUSE Conference theme and keynote speakers for 2015. BECAUSE 2015 will be held April 17 – 19, 2015 at U of M Coffman Memorial Union. The conference will focus on leadership with the tag line “Developing Leaders to Empower Community” and the keynote speakers will be Andrea Jenkins and Eliel Cruz.

Andrea Jenkins is an award winning playwright, visual artist, poet, writer, spoken word artist, performer, and Bush Leadership Fellow. Andrea also works as a Senior Policy Aide to the 8th Ward Minneapolis City Council Member Elizabeth Glidden. She is a nationally known trans activist who has been a vital part of community organizing in the Twin Cities. In 2014 she created The City of Minneapolis Transgender Work Group, which looks at issues facing the trans community and makes policy recommendations to city government. Andrea has held directorships with numerous organizations including OutFront Minnesota, Forecast Public Art, District 202, PFund, The Minnesota HIV Services Planning Council, and National Writers Union.

Eliel Cruz has taken the online LGBT media world by storm as a writer and blogger providing insightful and timely coverage of important community issues. He is the bi editor of Advocate.com and contributes to Religion News Service, Huffington Post, Everyday Feminism and Mic writing on (bi)sexuality, gender, religion, and media. In addition to writing, Eliel also works to reconcile Seventh-day Adventist campuses through his 501(c)(3) organization Intercollegiate Adventist GSA Coalition.

BECAUSE stands for Bisexual Empowerment Conference, A Uniting Supportive Experience. The conference’s mission is to create a safe, supporting, and empowering community in which participants are encouraged to discover and celebrate their sexual identities. As the nation’s only major conference by, for, and about bisexual, pansexual, fluid, queer and unlabeled (bi+) people and their allies, BECAUSE serves as a national gathering for bi+ activists, community members, professionals, students, and researchers. Allies are enthusiastically invited to attend.

BECAUSE is welcoming and inclusive of all people, including but not limited to people of all genders, gender identities, sexual orientations, sexes, relationship orientations, races, ethnicities, national origins, abilities, religions, sizes, political affiliations, and others. BECAUSE and BOP embrace the many intersectionalities of the bi+ community and encourage people of all backgrounds and experiences to participate fully.

Preregistration for BECAUSE is available online through April 11th, 2015. Attendees are encouraged to preregister as the conference provides multiple meals to attendees. On-site registration is also available.

Nobody turned away due to inability to pay. Pay what you can and free registration options available.

Regular Registration: $60
Student Registration: $40
University of MN Students: Free

Tabling $50, Non-Profit $25

The BECAUSE Conference is the annual conference of Bisexual Organizing Project (BOP), a 501(c)(3) non-profit registered in Minnesota dedicated to building an empowered bisexual, pansexual, fluid, queer, and unlabeled (bi+) community. BOP provides in person community events throughout the year as well as outreach at regional Pride celebrations and community education through customized presentations. BOP also works in partnership with other groups and individuals in the Upper Midwest who are organizing events serving the bi+ community.


Camille Holthaus
Chair, Bisexual Organizing Project
www.bisexualorganizingproject.org

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Monday, February 02, 2015

March With Us: Bisexual Community At #CC2015

Bisexual Community @ Creating Change Conference #CC2015
Denver, Colorado
  
The BOPP Suite
Thursday, Friday and Saturday, 8 AM – 10 PM
The BOPP (Bisexual/Omnisexual/Pansexual/Polysexual) hospitality suite warmly invites everyone of non-monosexual orientation to join us for nourishment of both mind and body. Our room will provide small meals, light entertainment, a safe place to catch your breath, an opportunity to connect with other attendees and share your stories. Check the Grid Schedule at #CC2015 for BOPP Suite location.

Bisexual Organizing Institute
Thursday, 9am – 6pm
In 1991 June Jordan, a black bisexual theorist and poet, called the bisexual movement a “mandate for revolutionary Americans planning to make it into the twenty-first century on the basis of the heart…consecrated to every struggle for justice, every struggle for equality, every struggle for freedom.” The bisexual community embraces intersectional dialogues and continues to work toward a world with safe spaces for every person. This year we’ll look back at recent successes in bisexual* parity and inclusion, while also looking forward to what’s next. Participants will interactively engage with organizers from BiNet USA, The Bisexual Resource Center, and The BiCast and will walk away with the tools and techniques that helped make campaigns like “Lifting the Google Block,” “#BiHealthMonth,” and “Bisexual Inclusion at NYC Pride” successful instances of bisexual, pansexual, fluid, and queer inclusion. For the first time ever, we’ll use a portion of the Institute to help create our signs, firm up messaging and plan our mini march!

Bisexual Visibility Action
Friday, 1:20pm (meet in BOPP Hospitality Suite at 1pm)
All bi* advocates who can will march into the 1:30pm plenary making sure the B in LGBT visible and HEARD. We'll then sit together and cheer any time we hear Task Force ED Rea Carey acknowledge the bisexual community during the State of the Movement address. We have the permission and encouragement of the Task Force staff for this action and Rea has told us the word bisexual will be mentioned! If the President can do it, everyone can! Stay tuned to @BiNetUSA on Twitter for the most up to date info on where to meet, make signs and flags.

 

Bi-specific Workshops @ #CC2015


FRIDAY, February 6

Building Community & Resisting Biphobia, 9-10:30
Bisexual Community & Issues • All Audiences
This workshop is: a way to affirm our biness; celebrate
the intersection of identities and acknowledge that we
have a range of experiences around our nonmonosexual
& other identities; dialogue among bi folks to develop a
vision of bi community!
Presenters: Laura Amalija Mitchell, Organizer, Feisty
Bis, Stanford, CA

Intersection Electric, 10:45-12:15
Bisexual Community & Issues • All Audiences
Attendees will become more familiar with and improve
their existing advocacy skills around bisexual* and black
community issues. Participants will learn to run interactive
games that utilize intersectionality as a tool to better
understand black and bisexual lives. Attendees will leave
with practical advice, social media tools developed with
intersectionality built in, and will grow their capacity to
support and ally with both black people and “The B in
LGBTQIA.” We welcome all to this session!
Presenter: Faith Cheltenham, President, BiNet USA,
Los Angeles, CA

Building Bisexual Health Awareness, 3-4:30
Bisexual Community & Issues • Fundamentals
The workshop will briefly describe the 2014 Bisexual
Health Awareness Month social media campaign piloted
by the Bisexual Resource Center. We will go over the
weekly topics and the images that were used to highlight
each theme. We will then go over the new topics for the
2015 campaign and discuss ways to highlight each of
them, plus we will strategize the outreach to LGBT organizations
and social media plan.
Presenters: Ellyn Ruthstrom, Executive Director,
SpeakOUT Boston, Boston, MA; Julia Canfield, Board
Member, Bisexual Resource Center, Boston, MA



Bisexually Healthy Faith Communities, 4:45-6:15
Move beyond the binaries! How can understanding and embracing those who identify as bisexual help us get in touch with the nature of the divine? Participants will assess their faith community’s bisexual health, explore current research about bisexuality, practice strategies for making faith communities more welcoming to bisexuals, challenge binary thinking by engaging in theological reflection, and develop an action plan to make their faith community or organization a more welcoming place for bisexual persons. Presenters: Marie Alford-Harkey, Deputy Director, Religious Institute, Westport, CT; Drew Konow, Scholar in Residence, Religious Institute, Westport, CT

Bisexual/Pansexual/Fluid Caucus, 6:30-7:30
Bisexual Community & Issues • Fundamentals
Wondering where the bi/pan/fluid/queer activists are at
the conference? Wondering how you can connect with
the national and regional bi organizations and movement?
We’ll swap information about what’s going on at
the conference for those from the middle sexualities and
offer opportunities for activists to network with others
from around the country. Organizational leaders will share
information about projects in which they can participate
such as the Bisexual Health Awareness Month and Bi
Awareness Week.
Presenters: Ellyn Ruthstrom, President, Bisexual Resource
Center, Boston, MA




SATURDAY, February 7

Beyond Binaries, 9-10:30

Bisexual Community & Issues • All Audiences
How sexually diverse are we, anyway? Let’s find out. In
this interactive workshop we will conduct an anonymous
survey of those present and we will look at the data:
Where do we fall on the sexuality continuum? How do we
label? How gender [non]conforming are we? How kinky?
How monogamous? And how can we use this information
to become more effective activists?
Presenters: Robyn Ochs, Editor, Bi Women Quarterly,
Educator & Activist, Boston, MA

Blessings Beyond Boundaries: Bisexual and Transgender Adventures in Judaism, 3-4:30
Faith/Practice Spirit, Do Justice • Participants will experience an immersion in chant, prayer, ritual, text study and discussion that lifts up queer sensibilities with a focus on celebrating the gifts of bisexual and transgender Jews. All can be replicated in home congregations, chavurot and ad hoc communities (queer or not) as well as in interfaith and political settings where spiritual experiences frame, support, inform and uplift. Attendees will leave refreshed, renewed, inspired and empowered. Hebrew used will be transliterated and translated.


SUNDAY, February 8

Bi the Agenda: Shaping Bi Inclusive Advocacy, 9:30-11
Bisexual Community & Issues • Intermediate
This workshop will gather bi- pan- fluid, queer-identified
folks and allies for a presentation that marks out the institutional
and structural basis of bi stigma using new data
specific to the bisexual community and then brainstorming
ideas for the next generation of bisexual-specific
advocacy. Bisexuals suffer unique disparities like higher
rates of cancer, addiction, and intimate-partner violence
and have correspondingly unique advocacy needs. Join
bi leaders and advocates to brainstorm advocacy priorities
for our community.
Presenters: Emily Dievendorf, Equality Michigan,
Detroit, MI; Heron Greenesmith, Movement Advancement
Project, Policy Researcher, Somerville,
MA; Paul Nocera, Bi Request, Brooklyn, NY; Denise
Penn, Mission Viejo, CA


Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Black Lives Matter: Bisexual Community Demands Change After Ferguson & New York







Media Advisory

Date: 9 December 2014
Contact: press@binetusa.org 1-800-585-9368

Black Lives Matter: graffiti Kalamazoo MI
The Board of BiNet USA and a number of other prominent American Bisexual Groups including: The BiCast, the Bisexual Organizing Project (BOP), the Bisexual Leadership Roundtable (BLR), and the Bisexual Resource Center (BRC) have joined forces with over forty other lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender organizations from across the USA in stating their solidarity with Civil Rights Groups and Activists in demanding change after the recent deaths of a number of black people at the hands of American law enforcement.




An Open Letter: From Ferguson to True Freedom
Words cannot begin to describe the depth of feeling we all share about the unfolding tragedies in Ferguson and New York City. Words cannot relieve the suffering of Michael Brown and Eric Garner’s loved ones nor can words alone salve the pain nor quell the anger of millions. It’s action we need and we need it now.

As LGBTQ national organizations, we proudly stand in solidarity with the civil rights organizations and local activists — including the actions of an amazing, fierce, brilliant cadre of youth leaders, many of whom are queer identified — in demanding fundamental systemic change that tackles the root causes of racial and economic injustices once and for all. From political accountability for the deaths of Michael and Eric to the immediate passage of federal legislation that completely bans racial profiling across this land to ensuring that local police departments are representative and fair arbiters of safety and protection for everyone and who — through their actions — are continually working to earn the trust, confidence and respect of the entire community.

We too must speak louder than words and take more action — to change more hearts and minds and fight even harder for the policies and practices that make statements such as this one obsolete.

We urge you to:

  • Join the March Against Police Violence in Washington, called by the National Action Network, on Saturday December 13th, 10:30am;
  • Organize and participate in peaceful protests in cities across the nation;
  • Attend public meetings in your city or town to show your support or share your experience with elected officials; and
  • Create your own actions for change in person and online — at home, at school, at work, in the corridors of power, and in places of worship.
  • Everyone, everywhere in our nation can do more to end racism and racial injustice. Everyone, from the Department of Justice that must do more to deliver justice for the Brown and Garner families to the high school principal who could do more to engage and educate students about racism and the need for justice

    Even those of us who have devoted our lives to this cause need to redouble our efforts to reach out to more people — including those people who are on the wrong side of this issue.

    If we as a nation are to end racism and racial injustice once and for all, everyone must be part of an ongoing and sustainable process of change — a process that builds on all the progress we’ve made, a process that aims to recruit everyone, and a process with the specific mission of delivering lived equality, justice, and freedom for all.

    American Civil Liberties Union
    Believe Out Loud
    Brethren Mennonite Council for LGBT
    The BiCast
    BiNet USA
    Bisexual Organizing Project
    Bisexual Leadership Roundtable
    Bisexual Resource Center
    Campus Pride
    CenterLink: The Community of LGBT Centers
    Center For Black Equity
    COLAGE
    Consortium of Higher Education LGBT Resource Professionals
    Equality Federation
    Family Equality Council
    The Fellowship Global (Pastor Joseph Tolton)
    The Fellowship of Affirming Ministries (Bishop Yvette Flunder)
    Freedom to Marry
    Gay Men’s Health Crisis
    GLAAD
    Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders
    GLMA: Health Professionals Advancing LGBT Equality
    Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network
    Harvey Milk Foundation
    Higher Education T* Circle Advisory Board
    Human Rights Campaign
    International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission
    Lambda Legal
    MAP
    Marriage Equality USA
    More Light Presbyterians
    National Black Justice Coalition
    National Center for Lesbian Rights
    National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs
    National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce
    National LGBTQ Task Force
    National Minority AIDS Council
    The National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance (NQAPIA)
    Nehirim
    Out & Equal Workplace Advocates
    PFLAG National
    Pride at Work, AFL-CIO
    The Pride Network
    Reconciling Ministries Network
    SAGE (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders)
    Trans People of Color Coalition
    The Trevor Project


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    Tags: Civil Rights, Black Lives Matter, BiNet USA, Bisexuality, Bisexuals, Bisexual, Ferguson, Michael Brown, Eric Garner, March Against Police Violence, National Action Network, Black, African American, People of Color

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    Thursday, November 20, 2014

    Transgender Day of Remembrance (#TDOR) 2014

    In honor of the too many lost, The BiCast roundtable spoke with Debi Jackson about Transgender Awareness Week and Transgender Day of Remembrance (#TDOR).

    Click to listen

    What is the Transgender Day of Remembrance?

    The Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) was started by transgender advocate Gwendolyn Ann Smith as a vigil to honor the memory of Rita Hester, a transgender woman who was killed in 1998. The vigil commemorated all the transgender people lost to violence that year and began an important memorial that has become the annual Transgender Day of Remembrance.
    "The Transgender Day of Remembrance seeks to highlight the losses we face due to anti-transgender bigotry and violence. I am no stranger to the need to fight for our rights, and the right to simply exist is first and foremost. With so many seeking to erase transgender people -- sometimes in the most brutal ways possible -- it is vitally important that those we lose are remembered, and that we continue to fight for justice."
    - Transgender Day of Remembrance founder Gwendolyn Ann Smith

     Visit GLAAD for more #TDOR resources


    Please visit http://tdor.info/ to find a #TDOR vigil or event in your area.



    Sunday, October 26, 2014

    From The BiNet USA Mailbag: Answers for a teen girl looking to be less confused


    Recently we received a wonderfully, touching and amazing note from C. who was struggling to understand her bisexuality and what it all meant. I wrote this response to her but I'm eager to hear from others in our community on what they would have said! 

    Hi C. Thanks for writing us at BiNet USA. First off please know that you're not alone, there are many of us who have felt the same way. In fact the Human Rights Campaign just released a report on the experiences of bisexual youth that you can find here:
    http://www.hrc.org/blog/entry/supporting-and-caring-for-our-bisexual-youth

    You can join us in conversation and ask this same question to our members on Facebook here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/binetusa


    You can also join our more private yahoogroup by visiting here:

    https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/BiNetUSA/info

    Either of these spaces is full of folks who are interested in supporting each other so please feel free to copy and paste your entire question into a message for either group.

    My personal advice is below:​

    On Bisexual Identity and Experience
    Congrats on coming out to yourself first of all, that's the first step for many bi people, just recognizing their bisexuality. The modern definition of bisexual that is most commonly used in our community is: “I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.” - Robyn Ochs

    So it's normal that you'll have questions about how bisexuality works and there's not a ton of answers out there but what we do know?
    • ​You don't have to be attracted to men, women and/or other genders all the time at the same time (if you are, that can be totally normal too and is often called polamory).
    • ​People along the bisexual spectrum (could include pansexual, fluid, queer, non-monosexual, polysexual, multisexual, omnisexual) represent anywhere from 40-51% of the entire LGBT community so there are a lot of us and a lot of different ways to be us!​
    • However most bisexual people report lower levels of affiliation with the LGBT community. This is possibly related to the level of "biphobia" or fear of bisexuals which can exist in both straight and gay spaces, and in fact most bi people report feeling unwelcome at times in the LGBT community. This is not always the case but generally we like to tell you about it so you're prepared for it. ​
    • ​ Recent reports show bi people being more likely than gay or lesbians to have kids and be parents. So you could totally end up like bisexual icon Angelina Jolie who's got tons of kids and has created her own type of family with partner Brad Pitt.​
    We also know that bi people report high levels of disparities, or crappy things that happen through no fault of their own. Young bi women in particular are more vulnerable to sexual assault, bullying, harassment, drug/alcohol abuse, self-injury like cutting, depression, and eating disorders. 

    BUT WAIT THERE'S MORE! Bisexuals also report high levels of resiliency and survival, in fact all throughout history bi people have made major impacts and have been creative forces who've driven past and through their troubles to help others. I hope that may be the case for you, as it was the case for me once too.

    On Coming Out
    There is a lot of pressure to have everything figured out, but it's perfectly normal to not have a handle on everything related to your own sexuality! One ten year study of bi women found them changing labels from bi to lesbian to straight to lesbian to bi in some cases. In part this is because if you're dating a guy people might think you're straight, and if you're dating a girl people might think you're gay. But you were born a bit more complicated than that, perhaps. And that's actually kind of cool. So take time in figuring out what it means to you and if anyone says to you CHOOSE, you can just tell them you know that you don't have to. Its ok to keep it to yourself and also allow it to belong to you. Meaning if someone wants you to exercise your bisexuality by making out with someone, you should totally feel like you DON'T have to do that just for them. Unless you wish to of course. It's so important to understand that being bi is something we get born with, so how we decide to share our true selves is UP TO US!

    On Community
    It is so very important for you to have folks you can talk to regularly about this, so please do consider joining us on Facebook. We share pics of bi flag colored kittens, Etsy crafts like bracelets and talk about movies and tv too. It helps sometimes to have a place where everyone might not know your name, but they get you and they understand what you're going through a bit better than a lot of people could...because they went through it too.

    On Parents
    Please feel free to share my response with your parents if you want to. You can also send them a link to the HRC Bi Youth report or this other report by The Movement Advancement Project, "Understanding Issues Facing Bisexual Americans":

    Getting your parents more information might be a good idea. It may be that with more information your parents might better understand you and what you're trying to understand about yourself.

    ​For more resources please also visit the Youth page on the Bisexual Resource Center website:

    Do you have some advice to share with C.? Please leave it in the comments!  ​

    P.S.
    My bad! I forgot to mention the awesome bisexual advice column "Ask Tiggy" to C. so I sent her email with that info. Please check out "Ask Tiggy" for more great advice: http://asktiggy.wordpress.com/

    Thursday, October 16, 2014

    BiNet USA Celebrates #SpiritDay

    Happy #spiritday! BiNet USA is proud to support and participate this year! We're thankful that GLAAD sponsors a day dedicated to standing together in support of LGBTQ youth!
    BiNet USA President Faith Cheltenham with her stepdaughter Cadence as they do homework this #spritday
    We know from the recent Human Rights Campaign report on bi youth that circumstances for bi youth are heartbreaking whether it be the high number of youth who report being bullied, the lack of support their parents provide or the lack of social and community support available to B in LGBT teens.

    Bi youth reporting what they hear from parents, friends and family too often. Credit: Human Rights Campaign

    We know that no matter what label you use, it can be hard to be accepted as a teen. BiNet USA recommends joining us on Facebook for community support today and every day!

    And if you're looking for information on how to support bisexual youth definitely check out HRC's report for valuable insights and tips!


    Tuesday, September 23, 2014

    My #bisexuality looks like writing for bisexual youth by AJ Walkley

    First and foremost -- HAPPY BISEXUALITY DAY! I'm honored to be writing this blog on one of the best days of the year; a day of celebration and visibility for the bisexual community. One of the ways I've tried to become more visible as a proud bisexual in recent years is through my writing, for online sites like Huffington Post and through my own novels.

    The very first book I ever wrote was Queer Greer, which I penned specifically for bisexual and questioning youth. When I was grappling with my sexuality in high school and college, I turned to books to try and find a character I could relate to, whom I might even learn from. Sadly at that time, there were no bisexual protagonists to be found. I wanted to help change that with my own book. Queer Greer would've helped me as a teen learning who I was and I wrote it in the hopes that it might help others coming out after me.

    My novel tells the tale of high school junior Greer MacManus, who enters a new school with the hopes of reinventing herself from a wallflower with one friend, to become more of a social butterfly. She soon finds herself among the company of athletes, a swimmer herself. While she tries to get comfortable in her clique under the admiring eye of Cameron Keeting, the most attractive male jock in school, Greer becomes increasingly interested in someone else.
    Rebecca Wilder, the beautiful swim team captain and infamous lesbian in town, befriends Greer, taking her under her wing. A love triangle soon overtakes Greer’s world as she comes to grips with her sexuality.
    Shocked by the reactions of her best friend and boyfriend, and finding herself more alone than ever before, Greer tries to cope when things start to fall apart. Without anyone to turn to, Greer must find an inner strength and the courage to be herself in a society that doesn’t always understand.
    Check out the book trailer below:


    Moving forward, I plan to incorporate more bisexual and overall LGBT+ characters in my books, showing readers that we come in all shapes and sizes, all colors and creeds; we are everywhere and our literature should definitely reflect that!
    Happy Bisexuality Day!