Saturday, April 25, 2009

Quick Hits: this is what Biphobia looks like gay.com style

Quick Hits: this is what Biphobia looks likeObviously quite a few people are really taking the concept of being an "April Fool" to heart this year. Now gay.com one of THE Most Popular online men's personals, chat and social networking sites in the United States decided to post an "Op-Ed" piece in their 'Hot Topics' section entitled "Can Guys Actually Be Bisexual?" And you'll NEVER Guess what they concluded . . . they can't!

Here area couple of gems from the piece:
So what do we make of these guys who define themselves as bi? Are they really fooling themselves as they screw their way down the path to gayhood . . . where men are concerned, if you're having sex with a guy, chances are there's a part of you that's in denial and only time will tell when you'll finally come around to that realization
and then there is this
Women on the other hand are more emotionally driven than men and can, I believe, be bisexual . . . There's something more casual about a woman playing both sides of the field
But you might be saying, after all it's gay.com, men don't actually go to the site for INTELLECTUAL stimulation, so why should we care what they say?
  • becasue the author is not just some random dude spouting off, he is Ari Bendersky, a reasonably well credentialed journalist and should know better

  • becasue a LOT of men log on, including some who are just stating to explore their sexual identity show up and poke around. And this is a place where they form their ideas about the different kinds of people who make up the LGBT Community and, more importantly, how they should treat them

  • and becasue it's the right thing to do
  • -- so do it.

    Here's where to voice your opinions:
    1. submit an Incident Report to GLAAD and ask them to please live up to their mission to defend the LGBT Community against all hate-mongering

    2. post your own Comments about the article, many people repudiating the silly biphobic and sexist remarks can help mitigate their bad example

    3. and if you're feeling especially moved send a complaint to abuse@gay.com and "cc" it to their parent company abuse@planetout.com -- yes sad but true PlanetOut!

    [ed. note] And read the good rebuttle by Ron Suresha Gay.com needs education in bi male sexuality
    and again many thanks to the good people at Queers United for noticing the article and doing something about it.

    9 comments:

    1. Thanks for reposting and offering courses of action for users to take.

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    2. Gay.com needs education in bi male sexuality


      Is ignorance about bisexuality in fashion or something? Because this featured Gay.com piece about bi men (”Op-Ed: Can Guys Actually Be Bisexual?” http://hottopics.gay.com/2009/04/can-guys-actually-be-bisexual.html ) seems based on the premise that it’s clever and fashionable to go around repeating bitchy lies, myths, and fairytales about bi men without doing the teeny-tiniest smidgeon of research into the subject.

      What comes across is that the writer has zero or limited, furtive contact with bi men, and he wants to make a grand display of his utter ignorance about bisexual men, closeted married guys, in particular, and to vent his frustration that good-looking married men won’t leave their wifes and lives for him. (I assume the oped writer is male.)


      More on this at Ron Suresha's blog: http://snurl.com/gpo4x

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    3. These people are just sad. They think that they know so much about us, but they're no better than the people that had oppressed them.

      Things like this will always exist. They'll clue in to the fact that nobody really cares about bisexuality any more than they do about homosexuality, and they'll move on to something else.

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    4. Anonymous12:48 PM

      Try a scientific study next time instead of just asking Gay men about bisexuality.

      There are A LOT of us BISEXUAL MEN around. I love my wife and I love to play with both women and men.

      When you say we don't exist, it makes you as bad, or worse than those right wing Christians that say that sexuality is a choice. you are just plain foolish.

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    5. Anonymous6:01 PM

      Bisexual Men Exist... by excluding them Gay.com is suppressing the progression of allowing them to be themselves. Do Strictly Gay men exist??? Bisexual men can argue that Men cannot be only straight or gay, but that each are still somewhat attracted to the same sex as well as the opposite. The Kinsey Scale is a perfect example. Though I can't speak for the majority of any group of people, I believe that sexuality isn't a choice, so If someone is Bisexual... THEY REALLY ARE!!!

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    6. Anonymous1:59 AM

      Euroboy is back guys...
      and he's listing things from these type of articles and stuff DAN SAVAGE and other biphobics say and putting it up on his profile.
      so much hate and misinformation...

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    7. Anonymous1:59 AM

      http://www.youtube.com/user/ProtectGQLTPride

      lets report him

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    8. Anonymous4:45 AM

      This made me cry. No really. I can't believe they would do this.

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    9. I'm a transgender person and I get the comments 'why can't you make up your mind?' What they are doing is trying to force you to choose. My advice: be who you are. Bi and trans people get the shaft all the time. I have chosen to become an ally because of all the biphobia.

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