Friday, April 30, 2010

20th Anniversary of BiNet USA -- Are You Ready to (Throw a House) Party?!

Hey, all, BiNet USA turns 20(!) at the end of June, so we're promoting -- and hoping YOU'LL promote -- local bi participation in your regions' Pride Festivals during that time, and hold house parties in your homes, towns, parks, etc., on Bi VisiBIlity Day (a.k.a. Celebrate Bisexuality Day) Thursday Sept. 23 (or the weekend just after that). We're making this a yearlong (actually two-year-long) celebration of Bi Visibility and Pride: We kicked it off in February at Creating Change in Dallas with the first Bi/Pan/Fluid Organizing Institute at CC, and our plan is to throw a BiNet USA Anniversary Celebration at the next one this coming February in Minneapolis. We need your participation, your remembrances and memorabilia (it can be via cyberspace: emails, photos, etc) ... well, yes, we need donations, too ... but most of all your participation. Can you hold a house party in September? Are you willing to organize a local Pride March bi contingent honoring both your local people and 20 years of activism? Are you ready to venture to a Minnesota winter wonderland (now that many of you have enjoyed a spring there at BECAUSE)? If so, contact us at or 1-800-JULY-FOURTH (1-800-585-9368) to let us know what you'd like to do, and what help you need! (Really want to get more involved? We're always accepting board of director applications!) Feel free to cross-post this :)

P.S.: If you're a former board member, regional rep, task force member or volunteer, contact me! If you know of one who's no longer active in the national movement, let them know about this too, and spread the word -- thanks!


Gary North
President, BiNet USA
800-585-9368 toll-free

Thursday, April 15, 2010

Day of Silence 4/16/2010

There is a lot of confusion these days about free speech
vs hate speech, including in the minds of the ACLU, who
are defending, of all people, Fred Phelps and the Westboro
Baptist Church because of an old-fashioned, misguided lack
of understanding that free speech does not include hate

Many people mistakenly believe that all speech is free in
this country, but it is not. The founders of this coutry
rapidly saw the ways in which speech could be harmful, and
made laws about harmful speech:

If I say I'm going to kill you, that is threatening, and it
is against the law in this country.

If I own a bakery, and go around town saying that my competitor's
bread is full of worms in order to try to drive her out of
business, that is slander, and that is illegal.

If I own a tabloid, and make up a nasty story about a Hollywood
star that is so vile that no one will ever want to see his
movies again, in order to sell papers, that is libel, and
that is illegal.

If you spent hours writing something, and I steal your words
and present them as my own, that is plagarism, and that is

It used to be that only straight white men had power, and they
could say whatever they wanted to whoever they wanted. But as
other groups have achieved some measure of power, it has
become clear that words hurt and words kill in other ways than
those described above.

On April 6, 2009, Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover, age 11, committed
suicide. He was being teased and taunted at school on a daily
basis for being gay. His mother pleaded with the school every
week to do something, but nothing was done. That was the fourth
time that year a middle-school-aged child suffered such bullying
and committed suicide. And with the Internet, cyber-bullying
and cyber-harrassment have become possible, and people feel
free to say even worse things through anonymity than they would
to someone's face.

But with all the suicides, and suicide rates in the bisexual and transgender communities are the highest of all, it has become clear that these deadly words cannot be ignored. Cyber-bullying is now illegal in Australia, with a $300,000 fine, and is illegal in several states. Hate speech is illegal on most Internet sites, so Fred Phelps has his own servers, so no one can shut him down. So the ACLU is defending someone who could not even post a video on YouTube.

Even as far back as 1996, the brave young people of
GLSEN decided to stand up to hate speech and bullying in their schools, and created the first Day of Silence. The idea has now spread widely, and in 2008 hundreds of thousands of students in more than 8,000 schools participated. For ideas about how you can participate, please see: