Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Polish journalist to be deported due to his bisexuality

Ivo Widlak posted a plea for help to the BiNet USA Facebook and I spoke with him today to hear more of his story. 
 In summary, he's a Polish-born bisexual man who's been in the US since 2001 and has been married to his bisexual wife for 10 years.  Someone in the Polish community of Chicago informed the office of Immigration that he was a homosexual and not really married to his wife.  He protests this as does his wife.  If you have a comment you'd like to share on Ivo's story please leave it in the comments as I will be writing a story ASAP on this for the Huffington Post since Ivo's deportation hearing is 12/20/2012. 

This truly seems to be a case of the law not understanding or respecting the reality of the bisexual orientation.  If Ivo was in a same sex relationship, he would not be deported for the Obama administration has stated that foreigners who are same-sex partners of American citizens can be included under an Obama administration policy suspending deportations of some immigrants who pose no security riskIf Ivo was straight he would also be safe, but because he and his wife are both bisexual their marriage, love and ability to live in the US is threatened.

Ivo Widlak is also a respected international journalist as you can see from his Wikipedia and professional website pages:

Ivo's wife Lale was quoted in a Chicago Polish paper as saying,
"Words cannot express how I feel about this case. The fact that I will lose my best friend and husband after 10 years of marriage. A bond we created with God, is being judged and scrutinized because we don't reflect the 1950's image of marriage. You can't tell me that our marriage is not consummated because we are bisexual.  When I look at my husband he is not the man I married 10 years ago. This case has rendered a negative impact on our marriage and Ivo. And is slowly chipping away at his pride, energy, ambition and self-esteem." -

What else can we do for Ivo?  Anyone have direct email contacts with LGBT Immigration groups, ACLU, GLAD, Lambda Legal?  


  1. Anonymous11:50 AM

    I can't belive that he is facing deportation just because hi is bisexual!!!So what is the diffrence from being a gay!!!! they don't get deported????
    I don't know Ivo personally but it gets me everytime when I hear about something like this!. Is there anything we can do to help him???
    I would thing that bisexuals should have the same rights as gay ppl.
    Ivo we are with you!!!! Keep your head up and be proud who you are!!!
    Your polish supporter!!!

  2. Anonymous3:18 PM

    What a married couple does behind closed doors should not be anyone's concern but of the married couple, let alone ne a reason for deportation. Ivo and his wife have a non-traditional home life does not devalue the fact that they are still legally married under the law. There are plenty of polyamorous married couples who have families, love each other and respect their marriage. This is blatant discrimination of the LGBTQ community and a violation of this couples civil liberties.

  3. FYI, Ivo and his wife are monogamous and not polygamous

  4. He could bring in a copy of the current edition of Bi Women Newsletter to prove that bi marriages exist -

    It is available in hard copy.

  5. The resource section is also available as a pamphlet -

    And finally, there is the book The Bisexual Spouse, available on Amazon.

  6. Polyamorous would be the word, Faith. Polygamy is many wives (as fundamentalist Mormons practice it, for instance).

    This makes the situation even more absurd.

    Folks in the poly community are well aware that they risk having immigration services declare their marriages a sham if they're open about having outside relationships, but that isn't even a factor here.

  7. Anonymous10:30 AM

    I don't know about the immigration law but I do know that he can sue the immigration office for harassment. He needs to file a complaint to the Department of Human Rights in the state of Illinois within 180 days of the interrogation incident. He would certainly win as the law specifically states that bisexual men and women are protected.

  8. Rosetta Gonzalex11:06 PM

    Lale has been my friend for 20 years and she is at her best with Ivo by her side. Ivo is a genuine, sweet, intelligent man and they are a perfect match. I can't believe he is facing deportation, how can our government break such a union due to their sexual preference. This is not right, there has to be something we can do to stop his deportation.

  9. Anonymous3:11 PM

    In this case their sexual preference is each other that is the irony.